Deirdre Bair is the author of “Calling It Quits: Late-Life Divorce and Starting Over.”
Two years later, she was elected head of the AMA – the first woman and first gay person to fill the role. It was then she started the battle to have sexuality and gender diversity recognised as a health issue.
The RealAge web site recommends finding a "reminder buddy" to improve your health, one
with whom to exercise, eat right, etc. "Reminder Buddy" - such a nice term for the role of a spouse,
sounds so much better than "nagging".
The sad truth, Janine had to admit as she drove over to the Empire Grill,
was that she'd gone and divorced a man she could talk to and married
one she couldn't.
Richard Russo, Empire Falls
Johnny Lingo lived in the South Pacific. The islanders all spoke highly
of this man, but when it came time for him to find a wife the people shook
their heads in disbelief. In order to obtain a wife you paid for her by giving
her father cows. Four to six cows was considered a high price. But the woman
Johnny Lingo chose was plain, skinny and walked with her shoulders hunched
and her head down. She was very hesitant and shy. What surprised everyone
was Johnny's offer -- he gave eight cows for her! Everyone chuckled about it,
since they believed his father-in-law put one over on him.
Maybe there's a nugget of wisdom in here that you can take to heart. If not, maybe listen to Dad, Grandma or your spouse's best friend. Marriage problems aren't insurmountable. Marriage is a work in progress.